What I’m Really Thinking?
So, I get these free books from Thomas Nelson if I agree to read them, post reviews, and blog about them. I had just finished Principle of the Path by Andy Stanley and needed another book to read, but out of the books that I could choose from none of them really stood out. So, I thought I would read something a little different (probably not the audience they were looking for) but still something that might be helpful or insightful.
I read some other reviews on Amazon.com, but clearly it's a little different coming from a male perspective.The whole premise of the book stems from the reality that "we are better able to love what we understand. And loving and being loved is the main way we reflect the glory of God." It took me a couple of hours to read through the book in one sitting, but the study guide at the end of the book would require much more time and effort to go through with others, but I did manage to skim through it. But first, let me review the contents of the book.
In the beginning chapters, Rinehart starts off categorizing types of men that are in women's life. Whether it's a husband, son, boyfriend she believes there are seven types: The Fighter, the Protector, the Adventurer, the Builder, the Nurturer, the Reflective, and the Scientist. Every man is predominantly one or a combination of a few, but with every personality or characteristic trait there are positives and negatives that can either benefit your relationship or lead to its detriment. That was just the introduction, and if you stopped there I wouldn't blame you for putting the book down--yet another book that tries to compartmentalize people or wring them through a temperament sorter that leans too heavily on the side of prescription than description.
But, the book is much more insightful than that. Rinehart goes on to explain not only the cultural, but spiritual implications of being a man and the responsibilities, obligations, and emotions that surround a man's life. Without excuse or blame, Rinehart does a good job of describing the male ordeal, their propensity to do, their sexual drive, the expectation to achieve and provide, their need for respect and acknowledgment.
Describe is a good way of understanding the heart of this book. You can't explain the male psyche, but you can describe patterns and through examples unearth meaning. Everyone is different after all, but indeed men are distinct from women in a myriad of ways. Scattered throughout the book are lists that describe ways in which women can help bring meaning to a man's life. If you are looking for a book that describes and prescribes the role of men and women, this book is not for you. But if you are looking for something to help you understand a bit more, it is a bit of help.
I'm definitely not about reading to "figure people out" but perspectives do help humble you to a place where understanding is the key.
